In television news, you become accustomed to your life being an open book.
I’ve heard pregnant women who work in newsrooms say “I wonder if they will want me to Skype from the delivery room.”
Karma has its own pace. The journey to the “Taking Action for our Aging Parents” project began last year for me.
My Dad died on April 27, 2014. He was a little over two months shy of his 92nd birthday. Mom weathered that, and is now receiving what one could characterize as “more focused care.” She’s doing about as well as she can do. Mom and Dad were married almost 65 years.
Dad made it easy for my sister and me. He was very meticulous in his planning in all things. That didn’t stop in the last years of his life. He had every “T” crossed and every “I” dotted. He even had a list of pallbearers made out for us and a preacher for his funeral. Funeral plots and caskets were already picked out. Anyone that knew him would be surprised if he had not done that. He was resolved to make his last days, and arrangements, as easy for us as possible.
Not everyone does this. Not every family has the benefit of a parent that plans things with order and precision.
If “Taking Action for our Aging Parents” does nothing else, I hope it sparks the conversations that need to happen in a home so parents and their children can talk about planning.
The discussions on planning a parent’s last year are difficult. But those discussions are what leads to a parent’s wishes for their last days and beyond to be fulfilled.
Not doing that, leads to chaos, and strikes me as selfish.
Even now, a year after Dad’s death, something will happen that makes our life easier because he planned it that way.