WEST BABYLON, N.Y. (CNN/WCBS) - A New York nursing home is being sued after strippers put on a show for the elderly residents.
The suit was filed after a family member of a resident found a picture of the event.
"I felt terrible I was shaken and he told me what to do," said Bernice Youngblood, 85.
Youngblood is pictured putting money into a nearly naked stripper's underwear - something she said her nurses made her do.
"They told me what to do," she said.
Youngblood's son, Franklin found out about the incident when he discovered the shocking photo in his mom's drawer. He also says she was forced to tip with her own personal cash which is supposed to be under lock and key by the facility.
"Too much sex and craziness going on now it in the nursing home and it don't belong here," said Franklin Youngblood.
The photo also shows other residents looking on at the East Neck Nursing Center in West Babylon. But it also shows a woman, seemingly enjoying the moment, who nursing home lawyers say belongs to Youngblood's extended family - June Ledress.
"She happens to be the live in girlfriend who holds herself out as the wife of mister Youngblood who is complaining here," said Howard Fensterman, an attorney for the nursing home.
The youngbloods dispute that.
"If you look at the picture it's clear she's a staff member," the family says.
The nursing home attorney says the facility has a board run by elderly residents, pointing out it was them who agreed to the so-called entertainment event.
"They requested it and approved it, they wanted the activity," said Fensterman.
Bobbie Sackman with the Council of Senior Centers and Services says she's never heard of a stripper at a nursing home in her 40 year career and it's inappropriate as group entertainment.
"They do want to have sex at 80 or 90 that is appropriate. This was a situation of a woman with vast Alzheimer's and she didn't know what was going on," said Sackman.
It's a battle hitting everyone from attorneys to residents and it has people here and elsewhere debating just what is appropriate and what isn't, in the senior years.